people change in marriages too and i doubt things always stay the same and you might not always have the same things in common forever either. why are we not expected to grow apart from spouses but friends its ok? are we expected not to change and develop new interest or become really busy with jobs when married? what's the point in marriage then? I'm not trying to be mean by the way. just Wonder why this is. i get that spouses live together but even when you live together you can still grow apart..Some say that in life, people change and friends grow apart and get new interests, but what about marriage?
Some people marry for different reasons at different stages in their life. Some for companionship,security,love. Yes these things should be what brings together the two being married, but sometimes these things don't allow changes to happen but reject it. Personal appearance changes and some can't seem to look past that but for me personally it doesn't matter because what comes from the soul that makes someone beautiful.But just as there are different stages of growing up we all go through. Sometimes even the best marriages fail because they were not honest with each other or never wanted the other one to know that the views of what marriage, religion and what their goals for the future meant to them hoping the other ones views would change and they don't. One person can't hold a marriage together if the other doesn't want to change. True friends never like to see the other one hurting, wants to offer advice if asked and helps when they can some have been around each other and know you better than your spouse ever could. Friends except you for you.Some say that in life, people change and friends grow apart and get new interests, but what about marriage?
The point of marriage is companionship, its stability that this person will always be there for you and you for them. That being said, couples do change and develop new interests and grow apart, but the key to a marriage is working at it with your spouse to be connected and to share some interests (and to have some interests). People have a core that always remains true and it is important to learn and love that in your spouse. Marriage is not 50-50 but rather 100-100. Some say that in life, people change and friends grow apart and get new interests, but what about marriage?
I agree, this 'till death do us part' business is a bit of a crock .... in ancient Ireland, when people married under the Brehon law, they would marry for a year, and if they got on well, they would give it another year .... so every year they would sit down with a Brehon lawyer and discuss their relationship, and it things weren't working out, they'd part ways. Whatever each person brought to the marriage, they took away again. There was none of this feudal nonsense of the the woman's property automatically becoming the man's property. I think it was more realistic, and feudalism was all about control. Modern divorce laws could take a look at the Brehon system and learn from it, I believe. Some say that in life, people change and friends grow apart and get new interests, but what about marriage?
It is very important in marriage that the two do remain somewhat independent, this would allow for changing like you speak of. If the marriage is healthy the spouses will grow together and embrace their differences. Most all marriages do experience hard times and even times that they have grown apart, but that does not mean that their love and commitment to each other wont out weigh any changes that bring negativity into the relationship. Part of a marriage is accepting your spouse for who they are and who they will become. If worked properly, the changes in lifestyle, interests, careers, etc. will make a marriage stronger. Friends do not have the same commitment to you as your spouse does (or should anway) And if all else fails, there is always divorce court!Some say that in life, people change and friends grow apart and get new interests, but what about marriage?
..as people we are always changing, but when you get married you argee in a contract till death do us part. Just beacuse you change interested or things get rough in life doesnt mean you cant stay married to one person. My wife and I have been throught hell and back, and there have been times I've thought we just dont make a good couple anymore, but I stuck it out and I can say with a great deal of pride that my marrage is better now than it was at the begining. I love her more now than ever and I hope that she does keep changing beacuse if she didnt and i didnt life would be boring. As for friends they may come and go but does that make you any less friends? Do you ever realy lose a true friend?Some say that in life, people change and friends grow apart and get new interests, but what about marriage?
Almost all people grow and change over time. Ideas on life and physical changes too. I think the key to a successful marriage is dedication to each other. Having interests in common. Some induvidual time for yourself. Respect. Not putting the other one down.
